The Signs as Scenes from 80s/90s Movies

Aries:

·      The Witches of Eastwick | the one where Cher, Michelle Pfeiffer and Susan Sarandon are sexy eating gallons of cherries in a pool and this puritan lady in the village ends up throwing up their pits

Taurus:

·      Matilda | the day after she breaks into the house and scares the shit outta Trunchbull, when she shows up at school like what is UP miss Honey I got you this chocolate bon bon and miss Honey is like sweet summer child have you absoluTELY LOST YOUR

Gemini:

·      Clueless | when Cher  decides to have a SOUL makeover and volunteers at the charity drive looking Basic On Purpose and has A Moment with that dude over him donating his bong. More specifically: the way she smiles when she decides it goes with the homeware appliances.

Cancer:

·      Ten Things I Hate About You | when heath is like oh u want the SEXY version of my 28 personalities? Ok sure, & then does the whole Can’t Take My Eyes microphone running shtick on the bleachers and everyone is immediately pregnant

Leo:

·      Private Benjamin | really just the entire first half of the movie, most significantly: after her husband dies during sex and the mom-in-law asks what his last words were and she’s like, “I’m coming.” More significantly: when her parents try to come get her at The Army and she’s like nO I GOT THIS and starts being the best at The Army. 

Virgo:

·      When Harry Met Sally | two scenes in particular: 1) at the museum when harry is like, pleash to repeat after me, waiter, I have too mutsh pepper on my paprika, 2) at the shop when they do karaoke and he goes dead inside cuz his ex showed up with her new squeeze and sally is like still super into it cartoon dancing in the background

Libra:

·      Ghost World | final scene where Enid visits Seymore in the hospital and apologises for being a dick and then is like you’re my hero dude and then we goes outside and has this super intense moment with ScarJo holding hands that you kind of hope will turn gay and have also somehow remembered it super gay for years until you look it up on youtube again and find out you were right and ScarJo is definitely staring at Enid’s mouth the entire time

Scorpio:

·      Addicted to Love | basically the entire narrative arc of punk goth Meg Ryan squatting in an old building to spy and hatewatch her ex have sex with his new gf, but especially when she breaks into his apt and rubs strawberries cuz he’s allergic, and then spends an evening cracking up & eating popcorn watching him break out in hives crying

Sagittarius:

·      Legally Blonde | when Vivian dumps Matthew at the end of the movie cuz she can’t ignore how much of a dick he is and then flipflops 180 and becomes Elle’s best friend

Capricorn

·      Death Becomes Her | the scene when Bette Midler and Goldie Hawn are at Bruce Willis’ funeral and they’re literally falling apart but they still got the salt to be like whatever hated this bitch. But also we loved him. And then they fix each other w superglue on the stairs outside

Aquarius

·      Practical Magic | two scenes: first when baby Sandra Bullock makes a list of things she wants in her True Love but makes them extra as fuck to trick the universe into him not existing, and second when she has had enough of her sis’ bs and goes to get her in LA but they accidentally kill a man

Pisces

·      Love Potion Nr. 9 | when Jenny Slate from the 80s takes too much of the pure potion, and goes to that dude’s wedding and coughs in the background and the entire room is like *slow manic turn*, and then chase her down the street and it’s definitely more scary than funny but then she orders them around and they do eveRYTHING

 

I've Cried Over Dumber Things in the Past

So this month I got two Significant Rejection Letters. I know you know exactly what I’m talking about—for the kind jobs/gigs/publications that you think you want pretty badly but like you’ll be ok if the answer is no? Though you’re pretty sure you’re perfect for it? And then you actually get the rejection and you melt, just melt, and somehow the puddle of you still manages to cry over itself even though you don’t have eyes or tear ducts to cry with because they’ve melted, too.

So I’m trying to put this in perspective. Shouldn’t be too hard, theoretically, because I’m super sure I’ve had sadder things than this happen plus I know for sure I’ve cried harder over dumber things in the past but still—every now and then I’m not paying attention and my heart goes, Stop doing the dishes imMEDIATely we have to reconsider EVERYThing let’s start with Why are you the way that you are, I’d like a 4-page essay by 4AM tonight.

 Now I’ll say this. I’ll be over it in like—(licks finger, sticks it in the air)—2, 3 days? But I want to better than that. I would like to not melt and cry over my own melt every time. I would like to not read every rejection as a literal rejection of the sum of my being. This includes, but is not limited to: friend request rejections on any social media platform; someone not being the biggest fan of the food what I made, how ungrATEful; romantic rejections; someone not being the biggest fan of what I've written, how dARE they; when babies cry when you hold them; when dogs don't want to sniff your hand; when your headphones get caught on something and get YANKED out of your ears, oh my god so rude. 

So help me out here, guys. I’d like to hear from you, if you’d like, what is your go-to technique for getting out of that funk when you're feeling like you’re on some kind of show where you’re the comic relief character and your shtick is getting DRAMATIC as hell every time you’re disappointed. And the producers found out that got a laugh out of the audience and the ratings are tough at the mo so they’re like having you cry EVERY episode at least 5 times. Yknow? Comment below or email me at yvdwouden at gmail.com

Now, to play myself out, two lists.

Dumber Things I’ve Cried Over in the Past

  • A toilet paper commercial (Age 19)
  • Dropping the last bite of a thing I was eating (various ages, approx. 3-27)
  • A piece of candy shaped like a whale (Age 6)
  • Elephants on tv (Age 18)
  • People I don’t know hugging at airport (age 28)
  • Cakes (the not rising of) (22-29)
  • Hair (5; 13; 14; 15; 22; 25)
  • A Feeling (like an hour ago?)

Good Things I’ve Been Consuming This Week

 

A history of journaling and a goldfish

At the moment this website is like a new notebook and I don't want to start writing because well let's be real here the only thing I've produced today is a poem about a goldfish I saw trailing a poopline in a public aquarium. And while that's fine enough, it's definitely not the kind of fine-enough that belongs on the first page of a brand new journal, and would better fit entry #230, posted on a Wednesday night, 1:15 AM. 

So maybe let's beeline that and I'll just get this first-page fear out of the way with a list of all the journals I've had over the years: 

  • So when we moved to the Netherlands we moved to a city that had a total of 1.5 Jewish families and one reluctant synagogue that seemed to be going through a dying-its-hair-blonde period. I was the 'first Jewish person I ever met!!!' girl for many neighbourhood kids, and because the only other Jewish girl my age they could identify was Anne Frank I became, for them, Anne Frank. Literally, not figuratively, these kids would not know my name, would call me 'Anne Frank' and when I say call I mean shout across the hallway. I went through two phases as a reaction to this: preteen fury (said nothing at school then spent long showers winning imaginary arguments), and full teen overcompensation. If they wanted Anne Frank, yep, that's right, this sentence is gonna end exactly as you think it will: they can get Anne Frank. So I dressed like her, wore my hair like her, and. Well. Started a diary. I decorated it with shells and filled--I think--a total of 20 pages where I wrote about that t-shirt I wanted and anti-semitism and a crush I had and how I hated school, all with exactly the same level earnest. Or maybe with some extra emphasis on the crush. I don't remember stopping, but I do remember a year later a friend of mine found it under a pile of papers and read a few pages and laughed. What's funny, I wanted to know, and she said: "This is like every diary of every girl ever." 
     
  • So okay so all of my friends are some kind of nerd, and this is because I pick 'm like that and because I wanna be lectured on the history of the microwave meal for at least two hours on any given Wednesday evening. And even though every one of my friends occupies a very specific kind of knowledge, for some odd reason, none--and I mean none--of these nerds seems to be very fluent in early 00s internet blogging culture. Which means I don't get to talk about this often. But I'm still adding this to the list, because it's important and because maybe you, reader, are a different kind of nerd, and will immediately know what I mean when I say: my first blog was a Xanga blog that was half self-insert Radiohead fanfic, half pure and undulated (yaaasss teenager) angst. 'Karma Police' would play on repeat on the main page. I closed it down after a girl I knew from a Harry Potter fan forum got upset with me for using the word 'fuck' in one of my entries.
     
  • Now I'm not super certain I had a geocities website but I definitely tried something weird at one point because I received Yahoo reminders for years. I just put them in spam. Didn't question it. It's like I accidentally murdered some asshole one night and buried him in my sisters' garden and then pretended not to see when his daemon ghost kept on appearing in the rose bush. Can everything in life be reduced to a Sandra Bullock movie ref? Yes. It can. 
     
  • Rose to minor fame on livejournal for a few months under an alias, spent next year trying to reclaim that fame. Wrote hundreds of entries in capslock, primarily on minor human interactions I had on public transportation. It was the late naughts, and I was doing badly taking classes at night school. I didn't sleep much and spent most days writing reviews for Ron/Hermione fanfics. 
     
  • Picked up paper journaling again. I bought a beautiful bound book for this, and tried to avoid starting on the first page by starting one-third in. Changed my mind halfway in, and started writing from the back to front. Changed my mind again and skipped to the first page, finally, 2 years after the first entry. I found this one again a few years ago, and it reads exactly like what that period of depression felt like: blurry, sad, and unwilling to start at any one point. Many entries I ripped out (no memory of doing this), or scratched over with marker so you can't read what I wrote. One entry I spent paragraphs imagining a future where I'm alone and unloved. A later me went back and, still hateful, crossed through the words, and wrote over them with a huge, "SELF PITY!!!"
     
  • Last year I decided to continue writing in this old diary. I went back to those entries and sent the sweetest messages I could manage to myself in the past. I drew hearts, and filled the margins responding to myself, explaining what will be good, and what will remain the same, and how even that was okay. 
     
  • I did not know how to write a diary, or maybe--probably, more likely--was afraid of what I'd write, both if it was too sad or too flat. I was also afraid of writing like I was writing for someone else. So on a hot evening in my grandmother's living room--the house I grew up in, in Ramat Gam--I began a different way of journalling: list making. My first list, dated Dec. 8th, 2015, is titled, "I want:", and under it there's four bullet points. Coffe, food, beach, almond oil. I don't remember the context now, but I remember it felt like a relief. Second one, "Ideas for a More Ethically Ok Makeover Show." Then, "Favourite Smells," and, "Fun Historical Facts," and, "Movie Aesthetics That Make Me Feel At Peace." January 11, 2016: "Questions to Self, Seriously Tho." February 1, 2016, "Weird Dreams I had." February 22, 2016: "Remember?" ("that tunnel under the basketball field that you thought was the entrance to hell," "the first time you tried to speak during a debate tournament," "that poem you wrote at age 9 about a divorced woman missing her kids.") 
     
  • I decided that if I'd be writing my diary as if I'm writing it for someone else might as well make myself that someone else. Began a diary at two ends of the book: one end I'd be writing to future me, telling her what's good, what's not. Hoping she's having a grand time as well. Other end, writing to my past self, letting her know what's good, what's not, making sure she'd know she'll be having a grand time--soon. 
     
  • So the aquarium was embedded in the wall
    Under a bridge, next to a church,
    someone had played sims city on this corner, 
    drunk
    I bet no one visits this buddy I said and sure enough
    the goldfish seemed startled by the company
    eyes bigger than its body
    dragging a pooping line as it swam to hide
    behind a floating piece
    of weed